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It is what it is

In the beginning of the pandemic, the urge to jump into bed and pull the covers over our heads until it all went away was a primal response to this fear and uncertainty

But now, 6 months or more into it, that’s no longer a realistic option.

Hiding from our fears only makes them larger

The more we push them away, tuck them into the deep recesses of our minds

The more they come up when we are sleeping

In those moments we are vulnerable

Fighting and raging against all the things

Isn’t helping either

In Pema Chodron’s excellent book “When things fall apart”

She says

“Things falling apart is a kind of testing and also a kind of healing. We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.”


There’s a word we use in mindfulness training called equanimity

Basically it is about accepting that what is

Simply is

Recognizing when we are hiding

Pushing whatever we don’t like away

Grasping to hold tight what we see as valuable

Seeing ourselves with clear eyes when we are struggling, fighting, denying, judging

And letting that go.

To be

What it is

Without struggling

Without getting caught up in all the drama

The state of equanimity offers us opportunities for peace, even in the center of a storm.

We can’t change the wind

We know that

So why struggle?

It will pass

And another thing will come along

It can be quite amazing how quickly things change when we allow ourselves to stop struggling

Be with it and, with wise attention and practice, clarity and peace show up more often in our lives

We become more resilient, confident, able to roll with whatever comes

With less anticipation of what might be or not

We can develop inner strength, faith, balance and stability of mind.

But how do we cultivate equanimity in times of tumult and chaos?

Making a conscious effort to attend to when you are struggling

When you may be grasping, holding onto an object, a person, even a desired ideal

When we don’t get our way and someone says

“it is what it is”

Does it trigger an urge to struggle?

Yes, it does for me too

And yet that is exactly what we need to remember

Especially in uncertain times when we feel a need for comfort and security

But in truth it is what it is

We can’t make it rain

Nor can we stop the rain from falling

With practice we can see opportunities to adopt equanimity

And feel that sense of faith and balance in our mind

And realize that it really is

What it is

And that’s OK

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